We always have faced the situation in life where we attach our self-worth to what people think of us. So, even when something is not even related to you, you take it personally and feel threatened. For example, if your colleague is talking about being late in general, you feel that he/she is taunting for you. This leads to unnecessary stress and can ruin your whole mood. Thus, one must learn the importance of not taking everything personally or make everything your own issue. For this, you need to work on your own issues and develop your confidence. (Also read: How to get over the feeling of jealousy)
Ways to avoid taking things personally and live a happy life
- Not everyone is accountable to you
- You are only hurting yourself
- Develop self-confidence
- Confront the issue
- Don’t do the same to people
Not everyone is accountable to you
When a person is saying something, then it is his or her opinion. It has nothing to do with you and that person is not accountable for your emotions. So, instead of spending all your time thinking what some other person said about you, understand that it is their life and their opinion. (Also read: What are the signs that someone around you is a psychopath)
You are only hurting yourself
When you continuously think of other’s words as a reflection of you, then you are only hurting yourself. Thus, you need to decide that you are not going to let anything affect your mood. Make yourself full of positive thoughts.
Self-confidence is the shield that can protect you from taking things too personally. When you are comfortable with yourself and have faith in yourself only when you feel that you are not affected by the words of others. Thus you stop taking the things personally. At the same time, it is important to forgive yourself. Click the link to know how.
Confront the issue
If you feel that someone is constantly saying things about you and it is affecting your mental peace then the best is to confront him/her. Get the clarification about the issue.
Don’t do the same to people
If you feel that someone is hurting you by personally attacking you then it doesn’t mean that you have to do the same to others. Be a better person.
So, these tips can help you a lot. You can read this article in Hindi.