When you are in a relationship, you make a commitment to your partner. This commitment means a lot of things like trust, honesty etc. One of these things is acceptance of your partner. Your companion is not a puppet that you can control. However, despite this many people try to change their partner’s habits and ways as per their liking. It is not just rude, it is also very disrespectful towards your partner. The moment you make a commitment to someone it is important that you help them to be a better person, but you shouldn’t force them to be something that they are not. (Also read: Relationship tips: How to make partner realise his mistake)
Reasons you should not try to change your partner’s habits
- Change is your partner’s decision, not yours
- It can lead to dishonestly
- He/she might start resenting you
- You can make the efforts too
- It might lead to conflicts
Change is your partner’s decision, not yours
To change or to not change. This decision is an individual one. If your partner thinks that he/she must do something different then you are the one who should be supportive. However, you can make this decision for them.
It can lead to dishonestly
Let’s assume that your partner is a smoker and you don’t like this habit. If you force them to quit, then they might lie and tell you that they did. However, they might continue to do it behind you back. This leads to lying and dishonesty.
He/she might start resenting you
If you keep nagging your partner to change then he/she might hold grudges towards you. This leads to a negative feeling in your partner’s mind.
You can make the efforts too
It is not always the case that your partner is wrong, sometimes you can be at fault too. So, think about the things you want to change and set an example for your partner as well.
It might lead to conflicts
The constant urge to change your partner’s habits, makes him/her feel insecure and weak. So, it better to address the problem if he/she feels it too.
So, keep these points in your mind. Click the link to read this article in Hindi.