First love: First love is important to everyone. It teaches us the lessons for a lifetime. Not everyone has the best experience with their first love but whatever it is, first love does bring some lessons along with it. Not everyone is lucky enough to stay with their first love throughout the life. However, your first love becomes the ground for expectations. One does not want to repeat the same mistakes in the present and the future, the ones we did in the past. Love is more realistic than the fairytales. You can’t always dream of just the flowers, chocolates, bunny names and spend the rest of your life in this illusion. Love is to be who you are and grow in the relationship with your partner. Here are some ways in which your first love affects your future relationships. (Also read: When is the right time to say I love you for the first time)
Effects of first love on the rest of the relationships in life
- Expecting the same butterflies in the stomach feeling
- Repeating the same behavioural pattern
- Realising what you want
- Analysing what is not good for you
Expecting the same butterflies in the stomach feeling
One must realise that the feeling of your first love, cannot be matched with the concurrent ones. When it was your first love, you might have been immature or young. You need to realise that time changes and so does you. You cannot expect to feel those same butterflies in the stomach feeling while meeting someone else whom you might like.
Repeating the same behavioural pattern
Sometimes, you become quite stringent about your behaviour. If your first love had been a failure, you try to challenge yourself with one another person. You find the fault in the person, not in your behaviour. Thus, you repeat what you have done in the past. (Also read: Finding love: How to find true and meaningful love without looking for It)
We all have this basic nature of comparing our partners. If we meet some other person in life we try to compare them on the grounds of our previous partner. This is not at all a healthy practice. Not everyone is alike and comparison might make you suffer the most. So, never let that happen.
Realising what you want
The failure of first love might make you realise what you actually want in life. You should try to shortlist the things you want in your partner. It is one another opportunity for you, so use it wisely.
Analysing what is not good for you
One must stay away from the things and people who are not good for you. If your first love has been hurting enough, you must by now know the things that are not in your favour. The failure if first love is a chance to stay away from the relationships that are not good for you. (Also read: What are the reasons that people fall out of love)
This is how your first love affects your future relationships in life. You can also read this article in Hindi.